I met with a young lady recently that told me she was shy, timid and not good at speaking in front of people. She said that she was nervous and would freeze up when called upon to speak before a group.
What this young lady doesn’t realize is that what she told me—that is her goal. That’s right! That is her goal to be shy, timid, to not be good at speaking in front of people and to be nervous and freeze up before an audience. Inadvertently and unwittingly, she has made that her goal/target.
Her self-image because of what she tells herself; that she is“those things” when it comes to speaking in front of people actually sets that up and pursues it as her goal to be accomplished. Additionally, as she tells herself those things about herself, she pictures and visualizes herself in front of people BEING those things (shy, timid, nervous and freezing up). Consequently, the self-image “says” ‘Oh! That is what I am supposed to be. That is who I am.’—and her mission is accomplished. So she hits her target!
See how marvelously we are engineered for success?!? She’s achieving her “goal” and not even realizing it. That’s how our goal seeking mechanism works. The self-image takes those instructions and sends the “work order” to our goal seeking mechanism (brain and nervous system) to make her shy, timid, nervous, and freeze up when she gets up to address a group of people. Goal achieved!
Unfortunately for this ambitious young lady, she is confusing her goal with her target. In fact, she would dispute that and say “No. My goal is to be confident and to speak eloquently in front of people.”—but that is only her wish or her hope to do so. Her actual “goal” that she is setting for herself by communicating in what she says and what she imagines becomes her actual target—and that is exactly what she accomplishes.
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Todd Thomas is a mental performance expert and personal achievement author. He has seen many people throughout his life reach for their goals and fall short over and over again including himself. He has seen those who are wildly successful yet dissatisfied
because there’s a passionately held goal they never go for. Is it lack of ability, feeling stuck, getting up that one more time, pressing on, or willingness to take the risk? With nearly 20 years of experience in coaching, speaking to, and working with teams and individual athletes to help them reach for their potential, Todd brings a unique perspective to the science of personal achievement. Message Todd today about joining forces in his Let’s Accomplish Something HUGE! system for goal achievement and results. DO IT NOW